The One Skill That Changes Everything for Neurodivergent Kids
Mar 07, 2025
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When working with neurodivergent children, we often focus on structure, routines, and clear expectations—because that’s what we’ve been taught will create stability. But what if flexibility is just as important?
In my latest podcast episode of All Brains Grow, I sat down with Krystel Alhayek, my teammate and ally, to talk about why being flexible isn’t about “giving in” but actually creating more opportunities for growth.
Why Flexibility Matters
Krystel shared something powerful:
"I used to assume a meltdown would happen… and then it did."
How often do we, as caregivers and professionals, brace ourselves for challenges—without realizing that our expectations and assumptions shape the outcome?
Flexibility means:
✅ Responding to the child in front of you, instead of forcing a one-size-fits-all approach
✅ Seeing behaviors as communication, not just something to be "fixed"
✅ Knowing when to adjust structure instead of clinging to rigid rules
Small Shifts, Big Impact
One of the biggest mindset shifts we discuss is allowing children more choices—not about major life decisions, but in small, meaningful ways.
For example, instead of forcing a child to stop stimming, ask:
"Is it actually preventing them from learning?" If not, why take it away?
When we focus on control rather than connection, we miss the moments where real growth happens.
Flexibility is a Skill—And You Can Learn It
This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has felt stuck, exhausted, or unsure how to support a child in a way that truly works.
